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In planning for the delivery, it is very helpful to
take a birthing class or go to your local library and take
out tapes that educate on vaginal births and c-sections.
It is helpful to be educated on this before the delivery
day. In the midst of a diagnosis, you may in shock or too
hopeless to do this. However, it is one 'normal' thing that
you can do when your pregnancy seems so 'medical'.
It
is very important, as part of your extended plan of action,
to discuss with your doctor the possibility of a vaginal
birth vs. a c-section and the medications involved with
both. The more you know ahead of time, the easier it will
be to be part of the decision making process and to "accept"
the way your babies are born. Sometimes we have a vision
in mind of what our delivery will be like, and just like
the pregnancy, the delivery may not be what you dreamed.
But, it can be close to it. Think in your heart how you
would like your delivery to be and find a compromise between
that, and what is best medically..
Visit
the NICU unit so you can see what babies look like at different
gestational ages. This will help prepare you for a possible
early delivery. This will help you make provisions for you
and your babies if they indeed need the special care this
unit provides.
Read
the enclosed information, as well as research on your own,
regarding the benefits to mother and babies from breastfeeding.
Breastfeeding is truly the best nutrients to give your babies
and is a beautiful way to bond. Contact the lactation consultant
in your hospital and she will gladly meet with you to help
prepare you before the delivery. Breastfeeding is so much
easier then bottle-feeding and helps protect babies from
many illnesses including SIDS. It is very helpful also in
helping mothers quickly return their uterus to pre-pregnancy
size along with losing added weight effortlessly. It may
take 3-4 weeks to really become comfortable with breastfeeding,
but after that, it becomes really natural. It always gets
better and easier.
Many
parents take the time on bed rest to think of special gifts
they would like to give their babies when they are born.
Think about a few special things you would like to give
to them such as baby blankets, needlepointed ornaments,
teddy bears, special matching outfits, family pictures,
letters of love from you to them, and/or other special gifts.
Sometimes parents are afraid to gather these gifts because
of the syndrome, but don't be. You are already parents to
your babies and this gives you a chance to give your babies
something special on the day they come into our world. Parents
that have done this feel very glad that they did. It is
also a tremendous help when a mother is on bed rest.
If
you have other children, think of who can watch them for you
at the hospital when the babies are being delivered. Maybe
you would like them in the room with you during the delivery.
Anything is possible. These are your decisions.
Bring
a bag including a 35mm camera, video camera (borrow one
if you do not own one), change of clothing for the hospital
stay, clothes to come home in, and toiletries. Include your
gifts for your babies in this bag, so you know you will
not forget them at home.
Talk with your doctor about your placenta. Request that
it to be sent to pathology for analysis (including being
photographed) to confirm TTTS. It is important to request
the placenta to be analyzed verbally and in writing on all
hospital forms. Other areas of interest to confirm twin
to twin transfusion syndrome will be the hematocrit levels
of each baby when they are born, and the differences in
the sizes of their hearts.
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“I have a hard time with generic inspirational
messages because
everyone's situation is so different. For me, what got me through
was
my boys. When I saw how little they were and that they weren't giving
up, I knew I couldn't give up either. Their will to live was what
kept me going. They were so brave and strong, even back than. If
you ask my husband, he would tell you that my boys survived because
of my love for them and the time I spent by their bedside letting
them know that I wanted them. I think it was reverse, the boys kept
me alive by their strength and share will to live. I guess we were
symbiotic.
As for both situations, I think knowledge is
power and it is important
to learn as much about your (or your babies situation) so that you
can
make informed choices. Talking to other parents in the same situation
can be the most healing thing to do.”
Stephanie
The Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome Foundation
NICU Coordinator
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